Finding other people a million of excuses
Is not an act of weakness.
It is an act of strength
Life is hard
We are all susceptible to illnesses, injuries, break ups, devastating news, rejections, etc.
We are not always in a good place
Because this can happen to anyone
We are all in this together
Sometimes we lose track of that
Sometimes we forget that others are in the same train as us
Imagine you meet ten cats in a foreign land
Eight cats are very friendly and come to lick your nose and rub against your legs
Suddenly two cats come in
They scratch you.
You go home hurt
Which cats will you most likely remember?
The ones that were nice
or
the ones that hurt you?
Maybe you will end up telling everyone, "These (foreign country) cats are nasty creatures. Don't ever try to pet a cat in that country. Cats in our land are so much more tamed."
You have forgotten the 8 nice cats altogether.
They do not count.
The bad cats will make the basis of your prejudices
Often we forget the 8 nice things people did for us to focus on the 2 things they did that hurt us. Sometimes they didn't even try to hurt us; it just happened.
That's how we forget most of our wonderful experiences to spotlight the bad ones.
You are in a loop
In a anger/frustration loop
Being mindful is a strength because it breaks the loop
It's a favor you do to yourself
You can select your motivation
You can decide to look at hundred goods (enter the light)
or focus on the few wrongs (enter darkness)
By focusing on the good
You have more control over your brain and your life
Notice and remember
Pay attention to the good
Give more importance to the good
You do not want to get trapped in the loop of anger
Reference:
Video: "How Mindfulness Fosters Compassion by Paul Gilbert"
https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/video/item/how_mindfulness_fosters_compassion